tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5816147226417130386.post2072909832773885966..comments2023-07-17T03:57:39.014-07:00Comments on The Liberal Agnostic Who Could: Wrestling with school. Again.Lisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10268689890561878413noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5816147226417130386.post-86555722142096125912010-12-07T21:21:19.304-08:002010-12-07T21:21:19.304-08:00I wonder how much of it is this "self-relianc...I wonder how much of it is this "self-reliance forever!" bullshit pummeled into our brains the entire time we were in the church. I certainly didn't get that growing up. I mean, I've always been stubborn and wanting to do things MY way, but shit.<br /><br />Eric's worse than I am about asking and accepting help. So, I do wonder.<br /><br />Thank you, Diana and CD for your cheerleading. Chandelle and Donna, I especially appreciate your input.<br /><br />It's just good to have someone understand. I don't get that very much.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10268689890561878413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5816147226417130386.post-53736870473169388342010-12-07T21:14:34.657-08:002010-12-07T21:14:34.657-08:00Oh honey... you and I are in the exact same godda...Oh honey... you and I are in the exact same goddamn boat. I'm contemplating several years more of school and I can't believe this happened to me. I graduated from high school at 15, for fuck's sake. I should be in a post-graduate wonderland by now. Instead I had kids at 20 and 22, then took online classes while J finished school and started his career. Now he's entrenched and however much we aim for egalitarianism, it's inevitable that I shape my life around his needs, his schedule, his career. Mine will always take a backseat now. <br /><br />I will encourage my children to finish their education and begin their careers either independently of or alongside their partners -- not before, not after. The only way to have real fairness in this situation is for each person to bend to the other. Otherwise the process (and sometimes the relationship) gets horribly mangled. <br /><br />You can do it! We both can. Take the help that is offered to you. That's a powerful lesson for your children as well.Chandellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02469510353021344718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5816147226417130386.post-89910755604148228222010-12-07T13:31:52.874-08:002010-12-07T13:31:52.874-08:00Let me add another "you can do it!" to t...Let me add another "you can do it!" to the chorus. I have been extremely lucky in my schooling, given that I am unmarried and have no children. I can't imagine the difficulties people--particularly women--in your position go through with regard to higher education. You are doing this for all the right reasons. It is awesome to read that you want to be an example to your daughter!Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09634766750596400436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5816147226417130386.post-69851309609740582222010-12-07T13:21:47.455-08:002010-12-07T13:21:47.455-08:00You can do it, Lisa.You can do it, Lisa.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5816147226417130386.post-28122596418927141302010-12-07T12:23:51.357-08:002010-12-07T12:23:51.357-08:00Lisa, I hope you can stay in school and make the d...Lisa, I hope you can stay in school and make the daycare work out. There's nothing wrong with accepting favors from friends and family who willingly offer. In time you'll be able to repay them, or "pay it forward" as they say. <br /><br />The church did take this away from you. As far as I'm concerned you can't blame them enough. Over the years I've seen dozens of LDS women quit school to put hubby through, then raise the family, then be steeped in regret over not finishing their education. But how could they? Aside from the challenges you're facing, they also had PH holders telling them over the pulpit every Sunday that it was selfish for a wife/mother to pursue a career or an education.<br /><br />I hope you can work things out. I think you will be an excellent teacher some day. Wish I was close enough to help out.Donna Bantahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01271377907141866718noreply@blogger.com